Comments on: Step Away from the Why?

By: Linda Hedberg

Linda Hedberg — Sat, 17 Oct 2015 19:42:00 +0000

In reply to Mary. Glad this was a helpful reminder, Mary!

By: Mary

Mary — Sat, 17 Oct 2015 14:40:49 +0000

fabulous reminder with concrete alternatives. Thank you!

By: Linda Hedberg

Linda Hedberg — Sat, 17 Oct 2015 00:33:06 +0000

In reply to Pam Taylor.

Haha! Yes, the shift takes practice and a commitment to noticing and eliminating your “whys.” Sounds like you are taking on the challenge, Pam – let me know how it goes!

By: Pam Taylor

Pam Taylor — Sat, 17 Oct 2015 00:09:56 +0000

Could you remind me about once a month, to keep that fresh … to avoid the WHY questions…
NOW, I need to pay attention to my coaching calls next week to see if WHY has slipped in w/o my noticing. Thanks for this, Linda!

By: Linda Hedberg

Linda Hedberg — Fri, 16 Oct 2015 21:43:16 +0000

In reply to Dorita. Glad this was helpful, Dorita!

By: Dorita

Dorita — Fri, 16 Oct 2015 18:33:00 +0000

Linda,

Thanks for this helpful article. I remember one of the first things I learned in my coach training was to avoid why questions. I appreciate the reminder and the alternative questions. Very helpful!

By: Linda Hedberg

Linda Hedberg — Tue, 13 Oct 2015 18:02:08 +0000

In reply to Susan Fleming. Yes! Putting others in the position of justifying rather than exploring is the opposite of taking a coaching approach to conversation. Thanks for sharing your response, Susan.

By: Susan Fleming

Susan Fleming — Tue, 13 Oct 2015 12:51:19 +0000

As I read this, Linda, it also dawned on me that a why question puts me in the position of having to justify my actions or words rather than allowing me to explore what I thought I was getting and why that was important. Thanks so much for sharing.